10/28/2026
This is a tricky topic because sometimes people do these things unintentionally and sometimes they absolutely do it to get a rise out of someone. Or maybe it's unintentional but it's reflective of a personality type that is, at a minimum, prickly. I find that using short statements and even statements that create boundaries in these kinds of situations often doesn't work. So just a heads up in case you get disappointed. You may have to retweak and revise over and over again before you find something that does work for you. Sometimes the person will just completely ignore what you said, like you didn't say anything.
Or the a person will jump on what you said and attack you for it. Yeah, there are some real pieces of work out there. But regardless, you have to try. And this is a good conversation to get you on the best path -- if you need support that way.
