Suikerklontjies Kleuterskool / Nursery School

07/06/2026

07/06/2026

So very very true!

07/06/2026

This quote stops me every single time I read it… because it challenges the most deeply ingrained parenting instinct most of us were raised with.

We were taught that bad behavior deserved a withdrawal of love. That if a child acted out, was rude, had a meltdown, or pushed us away, the response was distance, punishment, or silence. Love was the reward for good behavior, not the response to hard moments.

But that’s not how healthy attachment works, and it’s not how children’s brains work either.

When a child is in their worst moment, their nervous system is dysregulated; their brain is flooded with cortisol and they have literally lost access to the rational, reasoning part of their mind. In that moment they are not giving you a hard time; they are IN a hard time, and their brain is desperately searching for one thing: safety.

✨ Your presence IS that safety. ✨

When we respond to their hardest moments with love instead of withdrawal, we’re not rewarding bad behavior… We’re teaching their nervous system that they are safe, that connection doesn’t disappear when they struggle, and that they never have to earn their way back to you.

That becomes the foundation they build everything else on.

So the next time your child is in one of those moments, the angry ones, the inconvenient ones, the ones that test every last bit of your patience, remember: that is not the moment to pull back; it’s the moment they need you most. 💜

07/06/2026

That’s true!

07/06/2026

Dit is so!!