03/06/2026
Do you ever feel anxious right when things are finally going well?
Like life is stable.
Work is flowing.
Your desk is moving.
But instead of feeling calm, your brain starts waiting for something to go wrong.
I think a lot of people live like this without realising it.
Because after years of stress, pressure, setbacks, overthinking and emotional chaos…
your nervous system almost gets conditioned to survival mode.
Especially in recruitment.
You spend enough years dealing with:
* deals collapsing
* candidates ghosting
* bad months
* pressure
* uncertainty
and eventually your brain starts expecting chaos as the default setting.
So when things are finally calm?
It doesn’t trust it.
Psychologists call part of this the “negativity bias” - your brain naturally scanning for threats because historically that helped humans survive.
The problem is…
your brain can’t always tell the difference between genuine danger and imagined future problems.
So instead of enjoying the moment, you start mentally preparing for disaster that hasn’t even happened.
“What if this doesn’t last?”
“What if I lose momentum?”
“What if something goes wrong?”
And honestly?
Sometimes nothing is wrong. Your nervous system is just tired.
That’s why learning how to regulate yourself matters so much.
More sleep.
Less stimulation.
More movement.
More recovery.
More presence.
And one of the most important mindset shifts I’ve learnt is this:
Not every anxious thought deserves your attention. Emotions are DATA, not instructions.
Sometimes life is actually just - okay.
